AIMS IN COUPLES THERAPY
Relationship difficulties are normal & take many forms. Some can be complex. The need for occasional help is as normal as visiting a doctor or dentist. The following aims are relevant to any relationship
MAKE THE PRESENT MANAGEABLE
As quickly as possible we find ways to prevent things from deteriorating further.
FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON
A trained professional can identify what is going on - and how the difficulties presented can be adjusted into more functional patterns. Skilful exploration is required - thorough enough to find the root of the difficulty - but not so long-winded as to exceed the patience of the participants.
BECOME MORE AWARE - CLEAR THINKING & FEELING
Our exchanges coupled with what you learn to observe in your daily lives help you separate real & imagined & attach real meanings to what actually happens. You reveal and help each other learn about your ' runaway processes ' and the accompanying feelings. You become sympathetic to the personal difficulties each has carried - and to recognise the part these have played in your problems.
IMPROVE YOUR LIVES - DOING THINGS DIFFERENTLY
New learned understandings let you achieve things in a different way. You can help each other recognise when disruptive patterns begin to run. You realise with your new skills you can STOP disruptive processes ! You can recognise positive choices & enjoy acting differently - and help your partner do so too !
If you aim to stay together and improve your relationship ...
You experience more success and observe how, by acting constructively, you renew your sense of self, your partner - your experience of togetherness.
Success re-builds confidence, trust and delight in yourselves and each other.
Progressively more productive patterns BECOME A NATURAL PART OF YOU AND THE WAY YOU LIVE AND RELATE.
If you have children ...and you need to part ...
You need to negotiate ways to manage and share relationship with
your children as easily as possible - to be….
- courteous and effective
- consensual, non-divisive and mutually supportive
- supporting the children’s appreciation of each parent’s role
- emotionally and psychologically supportive
- stable, sustainable and reliable
Maybe it is never too late to learn, but later generally comes at a much higher material, psychological and emotional cost - for all concerned !
So... why not ....... share & enjoy the benefits…. and DO something about it ...
.. NOW !!