For angry pessimists the cup is always half empty. There never is enough. Somehow the world is against them  or holding out.  Unlike depressed people they often have high energy levels. Though often seen by others as successful, they consistently express discontent.


Dissatisfied and discontented - they are angry and impatient self-styled victims of  the incompetence or selfishness of others, blaming basic shortcomings of others & unfairness of  the world for their own misery.


They argue  incessantly.  Even when acting as devil's advocate - they easily become  confrontational and attacking.  They use aggressive and needless confrontation for stress management - 'dumping' their tension on others.  


Their relationships tend to be intense, persecutory & relatively short-lived & relentlessly  demoralising - like male tyrant or nagging female stereotypes.


Often as the childhood victim of  over-critical  fault-finding and controlling behaviour - they have witnessed other family members being humiliated by similar treatment and have learned to imitate these patterns.


Alternatively - getting their own way too easily - their strong personality was insufficiently bounded .  If  attractive or intelligent  they frequently develop narcissistic characteristics and can radiate manipulative charm.  With a powerful sense of entitlement & an inability to make allowances for others or to accept criticism.they react with aggressive behaviour when thwarted.


In neither case is there a secure sense of  the self  in relation to the world - with all the disappointments, limitations and imperfections this entails.


Often envious they rarely express  jealous feelings directly - but undermine or control others and put them  down to maintain their own sense of superiority.


Often they have Type-A temperaments - powerful driving and striving coupled with perfectionism - and unreasonable demands and expectations of others. Generally there is deep un-acknowledged unhappiness, a sense of  never having enough feeling little satisfaction with any aspect of  life. They seek security through being negative toward & scornful of others.


The big physio-psychological shifts required to effect change are usually resisted because relatively extreme demands and mind states are habitual. These behaviours often generate much physical and mental tension which cuts subjects off from healthy sensitivities - so that they .cannot detect how stressed they are. To recover,  they must be shifted away from pressurised baselines through behavioural & physical exercises and hypnotic strategies


Benefits from anger management techniques are unlikely without prior attention to underlying difficulties. Subjects seldom offer themselves or rarely go any effective distance in treatment without very skilful management.


Generally  partners & adult children, who pay a very high price for these behaviours, will  benefit from  therapeutic help  to deal with the fallout.


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ANGER  MANAGEMENT


Stress

       Management


Aggression


Attacking

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Over Critical


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Demoralising


Undermining


Angry, Impatient

Confrontation


Discontent


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Never Enough


Negativity

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Half Empty

  Not Half Full


Blaming Victim


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Envious


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