Be Assertive - Say What You Think - Say No - Express Anger
Shy - Self Conscious - Stand Up For Yourself
Manage Disagreement - Opposition - Criticism
Argue - Negotiate - Bargain Effectively
If you are overly self-conscious or shy it can be difficult to stand up for yourself,
bargain effectively, or be assertive.
In meetings or social gatherings the common symptoms of embarrassment, blushing
- sweating - palpitations - hamper the ability to express an opinion or say what
you think - often leaving others to dominate or take the credit.
Being unable to wield authority or to express anger sufferers may fail to challenge
colleagues where needed or cover their insecurities by bullying, driving or otherwise
aggressing colleagues or subordinates. It is important to able to manage disagreement,
opposition or criticism constructively.
In relationships there may be a powerful co-dependent tendency allowing the individual
to take second place, going along with things of which they disapprove, and staying
with the wrong partner whilst pretending that things are alright.
Changing these patterns involves learning new skills and discovering how to connect
more freely and spontaneously with one's own wants and needs - and finding the energies
which allow you to organise your internal states into combinations of successful
win-win strategies and attitudes.