These quiet complaints - Lack of Confidence,Poor Self Image or Low Self Esteem -
can have profound effects. Often people become withdrawn or almost invisible; hiding
away - suppressing their own thoughts, needs and wishes - giving in to others too
easily and always putting others first. Often too worried what others think about
them they become withdrawn - staying unobtrusively in the background - hoping not
to be noticed - but feeling quite left out. Of course, acting this way only makes
the difficulty greater.
In competitive environments the inability to mobilise self presentation and self
promotion skills may work against us in all sorts of ways - costing us many opportunities
for personal development and advancement.
Though easily recognised and commonly referenced - the underlying patterns are often
very individual and require careful analysis to identify the precise ways in which
processes are unconsciously constructed.
At the self sacrifice end of the spectrum, diagnosis and reconstruction are usually
much more complex processes.
Cognitive behavioural strategies may be used to deconstruct negative thought patterns
and reactions. Other devices including experimental tasks and exercises are used
to generate experience of new constructive possibilities.
Negative self perceptions and inner states and dialogues are refashioned in careful
and deliberate ways using Ericksonian Hypnosis, NLP technique. In combination with
various other carefully conceived exercises you gradually learn to experience and
think about yourself spontaneously in different ways.
A poor self-image is transformed - positive attitudes and behaviour become energised
and spontaneous - enabling life to be re-engaged with an easy self confidence.