What Happens in Therapy ?

You come and we talk.

I carefully attend not only to what you say but what happens with you as your account unfolds.

I notice how the states I observe connect with your account and I begin to imagine the kind of processes that are occurring and what else is likely to be involved.

I ask questions to clarify my own understanding of situations and processes and begin to explore and confirm with you the way that this experience is constructed.

I give support where the process seems overwhelming - and begin to get a map of those areas which cause you most difficulty.  In the beginning we may only be able to stabilise and relieve the situation.

I detect where, despite the difficulties, you evidently still have access

to inner energies and resource and begin to decide where the problems might reasonably be approached and in what ways - given your present emotional state and energy levels.

We gradually evolve an approach and a plan.

Where there is a great deal of disturbance and distress we may,  in the beginning, work primarily through formal hypnosis to stabilise things.  In some cases it may prove useful later.  But it may well not be used in the formal sense at all.

Often in the course of our exchanges  a variety of pleasant states - which are evidently a bit out-of-the-ordinary - may occur quite spontaneously whilst  you are wide awake. This is the mind adopting a reflective unconscious learning mode. This often happens when we watch TV, escape into a book or as we look dreamily at a landscape - thinking of nothing in particular - but just drifting.

Your difficulties unravel in a natural way as we discover  what really works for you.

You may be invited to carry out a variety of exercises to enable you to learn how to connect with useful states.  You may be taught self-hypnosis.

The unconscious mind has extraordinary ways of learning not available via a conscious route. You may be asked to carry out some seemingly strange though entirely harmless explorations or to undertake activities whose meaning and purpose completely elude you. These are not ' standard exercises '  but will be specifically designed for you to develop or engage some powerful inner resource.

Generally people find a great deal of this experience very interesting and quite enjoyable !

Often people report  that they find themselves able to respond spontaneously and effectively with a completely new repertoire in what were previously very difficult circumstances.

The whole aim of the work is to get to easy !!!

This is a continuously developing field where we still have very much to learn.  I like to get an objective assessment of people's experience and  progress to increase our understanding of various approaches.

You may be invited to provide completely anonymous assessments and  feedback to aid research in the field.  You are under no obligation whatsoever to do this but your help will be greatly appreciated.

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