Generally speaking, longer term relationships are more easily entered than exited.
As preparation for making a commitment - you may want to arrive at an informed understandings
of what you both want assess relationship style and potential.
Equally, you may want to examine your relationship to understand the communication
issues or emotional processes that have potential for causing difficult dynamics
or rupture. Relationship Counselling can also help you to identify what you might
need to understand and the relationship skills you might need to develop to enable
you to work together to get what you both want.
Maintain / Repair / Improve / Your Relationship : -
It can be all to easy to let the busy nature of our lives prevent us from giving
our own needs and our joint relationship needs the attention they deserve. We may deny
ourselves or our partner - or miss out on some experiences that we really want through
being too busy or neglectful. Our relationship may also suffer because we neglect
our own development or lose touch with aspects of ourselves that we once valued.
Also, over a period we can lose the knack of making those simple gestures and subtle
touches which used to bring pleasure and enrich our lives together. It can be helpful
to examine what happens and re-sensitise ourselves and our partners to those things
- little or large - that really matter !
Expert Couple Counselling can offer observations on matters which may easily escape
attention until they become serious and help you to become more aware of opportunities
and ways to avoid hurt and improve things - as they happen.
Not only learn strategies for coping better - but use couples counselling to develop
your own solutions to keep the show on the road !
Counselling for Relationship and Other Life Crises : -
Even though we may think we operate well under pressure, the emotional loading of
relationship and life crises can cause explosive atmospheres and a dangerous loss
In Couple Counselling, Ericksonian expertise is particularly helpful in detecting
subtle patterns which characterise the unconscious processes that cause emotional
buildups and the triggers which push things out of control and over the edge. Very
often it takes only very subtle change to correct the precipitating factors.
Once these are recognised, it is much easier to devise the means to help you to
help yourselves - and each other - to bypass your own psychological tripwires.
Counselling Help with Separation & Breakup : -
Sometimes couples need a period of constructive separation to re-claim a lost sense
of themselves or to change their dynamic and get a different perspective. Couples
therapy can be very helpful in framing and supporting this process constructively.
Breakup - if it occurs is usually emotionally painful even where it is evidently
the best thing to do. Too often people leave a relationship with feelings unresolved
or without a clear picture of how things have happened.
Couples Counselling can help in identifying and reconciling the parties to the realities
and framing things in a positive way.
Both parties can be helped to help each other to deal with these realities and achieve
a clearer mutual understanding and a proper but cooperative separateness - particularly
where children are involved.
Couple Counselling may happen during the split or may need to be worked through a
little later - when emotional distance can perhaps allow more openness and honesty.
It can bring freedom from recrimination, guilt or uncertainty and helps the process
of adjustment and letting go. It can also generate beneficial learning for future